Overlooking



There is a form of mature communication
Probably not to be found in textbooks
It comes refined with age and experience
And the realization that feelings are tender
And emotions are to be guarded
With care and concern.
In choosing one’s battles carefully
One must overlook the words cloaked in triviality
Teaching about honesty for honesty’s sake
Being in the Now
Letting people know where you are at
These have their place, but most often they are rife with pitfalls.
In daily life there are dozens of little things
That accumulate on one’s shoulders like a swarm of bees
It could be a lover
It could be a dear friend
It could be a celebrity, an announcer or politician
Somehow, sometimes they just get under one’s skin.
The first impulse is to respond
Honesty is the best policy, yes?
Not always.
Honesty and truthfulness require energy
Energy that oftentimes must be conserved
For larger, more poignant and significant moments.
This is not a call for dishonesty
Honesty that is filled with anger or hurtfulness
Can damage a relationship or ruin a day, week or year
True honesty is reflected upon, spoken with care
Motive needs to be inspected
And one must speak out of caring and forgiveness.
Honesty is the best policy my parents used to say
But in my small world
I occasionally write a letter to the editor
Or have a heart to heart talk with my patient spouse.
But more often than not I find
It is a kinder and softer way to let it all go.
After all, what may bother me
A missed moment
A chance comment taken out of context
Better to give a benefit of a doubt
To let sleeping dogs lie
Who am I to disturb the universe?
So you say, what about my anger, my frustration?
I say channel it positively
Into something physical or creative
There are a myriad of mind occupants
One can chose from
It is a choice.
So I choose my battles carefully
They must be concerning and very important
Not relegated to the mundane or trivial
Daily ups and downs, moments of impatience or anger
In the scope of things, in the breadth of life they are dwarfed.
I prefer a House of Peace.
Sheila W. Mooney
June 2009



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