A Door Opens




Ever so slightly a door opened
Cobwebs sticking to the jamb
Dust sloughing off the sides
Behind the door was change
It had eluded me time and time again
Life- shaking change that held me tight against the door.
No crisis, nor grief nor yearning
Could charter the path to protect the vulnerability
Shorten it to comfort and ease the pain
Smooth the steps and protect the vision
Level the terrain to ready for the rush of fresh air
I was an unwitting partner to my own undoing.
Slowly I began to understand
A key piece of my life’s complicated, delicate web of
Tangled relationships and unfinished business
Relinquishing my passion and zest for life
To a powerful force of placating expected norms
Trying hard to be a person I was not.
I see now that from an early age
I was performing, seeking approval
Acting a role without question
Adopting a persona eyes wide shut
Disconnected from my spirit within
I was a good girl, a good enough mother and wife.
I have a picture of me at about the age of six
I am standing in front of a car
With my older brother and a friend
My long curly hair was disheveled
My hands on my hips in a jaunty, impish pose
Where did this little sprite go?
Many years later I suddenly became undone
My glued dried up, my legs and arms weakened
Disillusionment and enlightenment together
Struck me like lightening on a summer’s eve
My eyes burned at the dawning, like a baby crying
And grasping the air without her toys.
I was afraid of the unknown
Afraid of what I did not know
It was like the death of a family friend
It was intimidating and formidable
Yet somehow I knew deep in my heart
That I was finally being set free like a newly hatched bird.
Now long after the burning and yearning
I’ve become whole, perfect in my imperfection
I no longer carry the staff of a lonely shepherd
The carapace of child-ness is gone
I just simply am, a being not unlike others
I have stores of love, passion and laughter now.
With humility I understand I have a responsibility
To open the gifts God so generously gave me
This awareness started in San Francisco in a small bakery
The air was full of baking bread, hanging plants and sunlight
I was immersed in knowing what pleases me most
Camaraderie, goodness, music, sun, sweet smells.
This memory was a springboard
An epiphany, a moment of clarity
About what I need to be me.
Why did it take so long, I ask
Had that impish six year old
Finally grown up?
Plagued by chronic illnesses I struggle to fight the good fight
Who am I, I ask
There is no stage anymore
My daily life is stripped down to bare wood
Sometimes even formless clay
Yet, with limited resources I say yes to every day.
Some days go better than others
I slip and fall, shake my fists
At a deity I don’t always understand
But most days are not like that
Most days I think about joy, hummingbirds, flowers
My dear husband and many caring friends and family.
I trust that little girl to my billowing sails
I am blessed with so much love and caring
I have a few regrets
Stored quietly in my soul
There is only today
To love and be loved.
SWM
August, 2009



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